Every couple wants to feel a sense of closeness. While closeness can be defined in many different ways in a relationship, it always requires intimacy.
Hence, improving intimacy in your marriage can help to improve connection, make you feel more on the same page, and even translate over into the physical side of your relationship.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking intimacy is only reflected in your sex life, though. It’s more about your emotional connection than your physical closeness.
How, then, can you increase intimacy every day? It’s easier than you might think.
Let’s look at some daily habits you can start right now to boost your intimacy and improve closeness in your relationship.
1. Talk Without Distraction
Make time to talk to each other every day without any distractions surrounding you. This might sound easy at first. But between phones, busy schedules, maybe even kids, it can be hard to find time alone to really focus on each other and make a conversation.
Even ten minutes of uninterrupted communication can make you feel closer as a couple. Find a time that works for you, and devote that time solely to your partner.
2. Touch Each Other Frequently
Little touches throughout the day can be a great way to boost your intimacy. When was the last time you held hands while watching a television show on the couch? Even gently touching your partner’s shoulder as you pass by them in the kitchen can increase your connection.
In fact, non-sexual touches can boost your intimacy even more than sexual ones. Show affection toward one another often without any expectations, and you’ll start to feel closer in more ways than one.
3. Reflect On Memories
If you’ve been together for a while, try bringing up some of your favorite memories together in conversation.
You don’t have to (and shouldn’t) live in the past. But talking about some of your favorite dates, your favorite intimate moments, or even things that made you laugh when you first got together is a great way to build intimacy and re-ignite any dwindling sparks between you.
4. Work On Something as a Couple
Working on something together from start to finish can help you to feel closer as a couple and will leave you both feeling accomplished in the end. For example, if you have a home improvement project you’ve been ignoring, why not start it together? Or take a class as a couple where you have to learn something new.
Starting and completing a project together takes time, commitment, and a willingness to listen and learn from one another. You’ll grow closer together through the project, of course, but it’s also a wonderful way to reconnect on various levels of your relationship.
5. Don’t Spend Every Second Together
If you want to boost your intimacy, you might think spending as much time together as possible is the key. But that isn’t always the case. In fact, spending some time apart can help you to feel even closer to your partner when you do see each other again.
Spending time alone gives you a chance to reflect on your relationship. It also gives you time to be introspective and think about what you really need and want. When you’re more in tune with yourself, you’ll be able to be more in tune with your partner.
Intimacy doesn’t always come easily to some couples. It can be something you have to consistently work on. Even if sparks were flying at some point in your relationship, it’s normal to feel disconnected at times. It doesn’t mean your relationship is over, and it doesn’t even mean you have to worry.
If you’re struggling to boost your intimacy despite your best efforts, marital therapy can help. Feel free to contact us to set up an appointment or to learn more.